I still remember many years ago, walking into that crowded funeral home for my best man, Bill Hardman. The moment I stepped inside, I was struck by the sea of friends, family, colleagues, and many people I’d never met. Every seat was taken, and people were standing shoulder-to-shoulder, filling every corner of the room. You could feel the collective weight of grief, but also a shared celebration of a life so many had loved.
As I moved through the crowd, I overheard bits and pieces of conversation, stories of Bill’s uncanny ability to make you feel like you were the most important person in the world. One person spoke of how Bill showed up to help when they were down on their luck. Another recounted that time he took a stranger under his wing, guiding them through a career crossroads. Everyone agreed: being in Bill’s presence was to be seen, heard, and valued.
Standing there, I couldn’t help but wonder: “How many people would show up to my own visitation? And what would they say about me?” It was a sobering thought that our time is finite, and the impact we have truly matters. Bill never chased accolades or titles; instead, he focused on connecting with people, giving them his undivided attention, and lifting them up wherever he could.
It’s never too late to have an impact on the lives of others. Maybe you’ve been thinking, “I’m too busy,” or “I’ll start tomorrow.” But what if tomorrow never comes? Bill’s life reminds us that influence isn’t about grand gestures or big speeches. It’s about the small, consistent actions—checking in on a friend, offering your expertise without expecting anything in return, or simply listening when someone needs to talk. Each interaction is a chance to leave a positive mark.
So, what are you waiting for? If you’ve ever felt the pull to be more, to give more, to connect more deeply, this is your moment. Start by creating a clear vision of who you want to be, someone who uplifts, inspires, and empowers those around them. Write it down. Envision the legacy you want to leave. Then begin living it today, one decision, one interaction at a time.
Maybe it’s choosing to mentor that colleague who’s struggling. Maybe it’s carving out time each week to volunteer. Maybe it’s simply looking someone in the eye and truly listening when they speak. These actions, small as they may seem, compound over time. That’s how you build influence—brick by brick, conversation by conversation, moment by moment.
Here’s to Bill Hardman, a man whose presence filled rooms and whose spirit filled hearts. He taught me that influence isn’t measured by titles or the size of your checkbook; it’s measured by the number of lives you touch and the depth of the connections you forge. Bill, you showed me what it means to live intentionally, to make every interaction count. Thank you for the lessons, the laughter, and the unwavering belief in those around you. What an influence you had on me and on all those you came in contact with. Your legacy lives on.
Live with purpose. Increase your influence. And above all, let your life be a testament to the power of genuine connection.
